Is this the family of the future?
Jody and Greg Rogers of Glasgow have been labeled Britain’s first ‘Transgender Family’ now that they have revealed that their five-year-old son is transitioning to become a girl.
Jody, 21, and Greg,27, though not married, share the same last name and home with Jody’s biological son, Jayden. The family, which has been together for 3 years, has been reported to social services and faced ‘cruel online bullies’ since Jayden began living life as a ‘fashion-loving girl’ and using female pronouns almost a year ago.
The Daily Mail wrote a piece about the family’s struggle with a ‘campaign of online abuse’ and a few neighbors that just don’t accept the five-year-old’s transition.
For although Jayden’s teachers, friends and most of their neighbours have accepted the child’s gender transition, others have mounted a campaign of online abuse centred on the unfounded claim that the parents had somehow cajoled their child into becoming a girl.
The nightmare began with an anonymous complaint to social services from a resident who saw Jayden playing outside the family home in girls’ clothing and accused the couple of child abuse. Astonishingly, although the council officials who investigated the claims found the Rogers to be a happy, loving family, the couple say it was suggested they move away from the area to solve the problem.
They angrily refused but have since suffered a barrage of online insults from anonymous trolls who insist that because Greg had changed sex, he must have forced Jayden to do the same.
Greg was born a woman and has taken male hormones and has undergone surgery to remove both breasts, but has not yet had full gender reassignment surgery. Greg who transitioned at age 16, says that it was the last thing that the couple wanted for their child because it’s such a difficult life.
‘We haven’t encouraged Jayden to do this, despite what people think, and we are hurt at the suggestion.
‘She has no idea that I’m transgender. Having been through this myself, I have conflicting emotions about her deciding she doesn’t want to be a boy any more. It’s not an easy life. People will always judge you and I don’t think there is a single transgender person on the planet who would push that on a child.
‘We can’t fix society but we can help Jayden to be happy with who she is. We don’t encourage it. In fact, we buy boys’ and girls’ clothes to give her the option and we have regular conversations with her, underlining that if she wants to go back to being a boy, we will love her regardless. It is not something I would have chosen for myself and certainly not something I would choose for my child, but she is so much happier now.’
It all began about a year ago when Jayden, then aged 4, had surgery to correct a hearing problem that was affecting his ability to communicate. Step-dad Greg says that once the operation was complete, Jayden immediately expressed his displeasure at being a boy.
She developed speech and immediately started saying, “I hate wearing boys’ clothes and everything about being a boy”. At first, we thought it was probably just a phase but it’s been consistent ever since. She is adamant she’s a girl.
Jayden’s mother, Jody, spoke about how her son became her daughter overnight.
‘I had a son one moment and a daughter the next. It probably took me six months to start accepting that it was what Jayden really wanted. It’s been like a grieving process for me, though. I do miss having a son and, as a baby, Jayden looked so much like a boy.
‘I look back at photographs of him now, in his little suits, and it’s like a different person.
‘I’ve never been a “girly girl” myself, but Jayden is, and I’ve had to learn to do her hair and nails.
‘I never had to bother before because when she was a boy, she just had a short back and sides. Fortunately, her name was unisex, otherwise she would have had to change it, but I still get the pronouns mixed up, calling her “he” rather than “she”. Jayden gets really annoyed with me.’
Fortunately. You wouldn’t have to go through the hassle of changing your child’s name or anything. Altering their very existence, however… well, that’s fine.
Doctors still know very little about the long-term effects of taking puberty blockers over an extended period and have claimed there is ‘anecdotal data’ the drugs are linked to osteoporosis.
Young people who are prescribed blockers are likely to progress onto ‘cross sex’ hormones when they reach 16. Boys will be given oestrogen and girls will start on testosterone. The effects of this medication are irreversible and can have ‘lifelong implications’ for the users.
Jody said: ‘Of course I have concerns for the future. I get really worried because she will have to go on hormone blockers when she’s older if she wants to remain being a girl. People have actually asked us if she’s had the surgery already to her lower half, which is frankly ridiculous. She’s five!
‘Others have told me I should force Jayden to be a boy and not pander to it because she will get bullied. But she was getting bullied anyway because she’s always been flamboyant.’
Source: Daily Mail
So, here’s an awkward observation…
Perhaps Jayden hates everything about being a boy because he lives with two women and one has taken the form of a man but is still genetically a woman. He doesn’t have a genuine male role model. His ‘dad’ is a woman who believes that she is a man and has had surgery to mimic being a man. As difficult as it is for transgender individuals to hear, a woman cannot be a man, nor can a man be a woman. It is not biologically or genetically possible.
It could be that the tolerance for gender fluidity that they have been teaching Jayden from the time he was two has had an effect on him. After all, there is nature and there is nurture. I actually say this without judgment on these parents who believe that they were training their son to be kind to people who are ‘different’ and eventually understand that his step-dad was once a woman. I understand teaching your kids your values, and well, what else would they teach him?
But maybe there are just some things that children are unable to cognitively grasp at certain ages. That’s why many conservatives are concerned about the age-appropriateness of some sex ed curricula that include things like gender identity at a very early age.
Look, as a Christian woman, I do believe that we need to have compassion for people that are struggling with gender confusion. It is such a basic part of who we are, and I cannot imagine what it would be like to question that. However, this statistically tiny community has been growing, and I personally don’t believe that it’s just because there is more acceptance to the premise that gender is fluid. (Which I don’t believe to be true.)
If this family is concerned about the well being of Jayden, then maybe they should look at moving. A married, gay conservative man is seeking asylum in the United States because of the Islamization of the UK.
And then there is the issue of regret and de-transitioning.
The decisions children make are often regretted. This is also true of gender transition. That’s because once trans kids become adults, they quite often ‘grow out of’ being transgender. What, you mean things can change once you hit puberty? That doesn’t stop the Media(D) and transactivists push younger and younger transition with the use of puberty blockers that cause permanent changes like sterility.
Regret is real. Take it from the words of a conservative transgender woman, Blaire White, who doesn’t regret her transition, but warns of children transitioning too early: