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California’s Pro-Trans Child Custody Bill Is Pure Emotional Blackmail


BY: KYLEE GRISWOLD | SEPTEMBER 15, 2023

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There’s a bill sitting on Gavin Newsom’s desk right now that would not only render the First Amendment null and void but also strip parents of their most fundamental rights and responsibilities toward their children. It’s not a matter of if the far-left California governor will sign it, but when.

The bill, the Transgender, Gender-Diverse, and Intersex Youth Empowerment Act (AB 957) — which last week passed the Senate and then, on a party-line vote, the Assembly — dictates that courts must consider “gender affirmation” in child custody battles. The soon-to-be-law states that in seeking to determine the “health, safety, and welfare of the child,” courts must consider “a parent’s affirmation of the child’s gender identity or gender expression.”

While some Democrat apologists in the media pretend it’s absurd to think this means conservative parents would ever lose custody of their children by nature of holding conservative values — It doesn’t say judges *have* to side with the loving, accepting parents, you hateful rubes! — we know how this will go. It’s California, for crying out loud.

But we don’t have to extrapolate much. Other media have dropped the facade and told us exactly where this bill will lead. Here’s CNBC:

Under the proposed law, parents, who fail to acknowledge and support their child’s gender transition, could face potential consequences, including the loss of custody rights to another parent or even the state itself. The bill’s supporters argue that it is in the best interest of children, aiming to create a more inclusive and affirming environment for gender-diverse youth.

There’s the quiet part out loud: A mom or dad who opts not to indulge their child in mental illness, who uses the child’s given name, prohibits the use of puberty blockers, or discourages sterilizing hormones or surgery could lose the child not only to the other parent, which is egregious enough — but to the state.

As Sarah Parshall Perry, senior legal fellow at the Heritage Foundation, has pointed out, this law would stomp on the Constitution’s guarantee to free speech and the free exercise of religion. It would “muzzle” parents and prevent them from rearing their children in accordance with their deeply held beliefs — beliefs, by the way, that have been regarded by both Christians and non-Christians as basic laws of nature and fundamentals of civil society until about five minutes ago. This is more than a legal dilemma for Constitutional scholars and gender-studies midwits to bat around in mahogany rooms and shoddy amici, however. If it feels more nefarious and personal — that’s because it is. We’ve seen it before.

It’s classic Democrat emotional blackmail. It’s the left waging psychological warfare on its ideological opponents with barely veiled threats. Oh, you want to see your own child? Well, that’s interesting because xir needs some hormones xe says you won’t provide. You don’t seem too concerned with xir’s health and safety.

This brand of emotional blackmail has already been tested and perfected with the suicide card. That is, the aforementioned gender-studies “experts,” medical professionals, journalists, and other Very Smart People™ have decided, based on little to no evidence, that transgender medical interventions are the only acceptable course of action for confused kids. In fact, anything short of full “affirmation” is deadly, they say.

With this conclusion in mind — and at the expense of mounting evidence showing pro-trans policies cause the most harm — they’ve devised “research” that Democrats then present as unassailable. The methodology of these biased studies is wildly problematic. Pro-trans ideologues habitually equate correlation with causation, fail to treat gender dysphoria as a mental illness and ignore underlying mental health issues such as depression, discount the potential role of wrong-sex hormones in unhealthy ideations, ignore hard facts about the ways puberty eventually resolves almost all dysphoria in minors, discounts rampant social factors, and turns a blind eye to the growing chorus of detransitioners who fell for leftist lies and are now filled with despair.

[READ: Telling Kids To Hate Their Biology Might Be What’s Actually Killing Them]

But never let bad science get in the way of an agenda. Would you rather have a live son or a dead daughter?, they manipulate. A lack of acceptance has driven trans suicide rates and self-harm through the roof.

A law this unconstitutional is bound to wind up in the courts. And I suppose we should be thankful there’s one remaining recourse. But if all conservatives have on their side is a waiting game until the courts eventually slap California lawmakers on the wrist, they have nothing. In fact, getting GOP-opposed laws tied up in the slow gears of the court system is exactly what Democrats are expecting. They’re counting on it. The more they can keep conservatives and jurists busy, the more radical laws and policies they can keep shoving out the door. We can’t stop them all. How many poor parents and children will be casualties in the meantime?

But don’t lose the human element in the legislative games. Rabid ideologues and iconoclasts who want to remake America and its children in their own image aren’t afraid to use the most vulnerable among us as pawns. Self-censorship will only be the start. It’s emotional blackmail, plain and simple. Do what we say, or else.


Kylee Griswold is the editorial director of The Federalist. She previously worked as the copy editor for the Washington Examiner magazine and as an editor and producer at National Geographic. She holds a B.S. in Communication Arts/Speech and an A.S. in Criminal Justice and writes on topics including feminism and gender issues, religion, and the media. Follow her on Twitter @kyleezempel.

Bill O’Reilly calls allegations he abused ex-wife ‘100 percent false’


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Bill O’Reilly is denying a report that he physically abused his former wife. “All allegations against me in these circumstances are 100 percent false,” the Fox News host said in a statement issued through his attorney to the Hollywood Reporter.

Those allegations surfaced Monday when Gawker reported details leaked from a recently-ended three-year custody battle between O’Reilly and his ex-wife, Maureen McPhilmy. According to Gawker, “a court-appointed forensic examiner testified at a closed hearing that O’Reilly’s daughter claimed to have witnessed her father dragging McPhilmy down a staircase by her neck, apparently unaware that the daughter was watching.”Picture3

The incident allegedly occurred in the couple’s Manhasset, Long Island, home prior to their 2010 separation. They divorced in 2011. Last month, a Nassau County court granted McPhilmy custody of the couple’s two minor children. Documents from the custody dispute are sealed. The website said it learned details from “a source familiar with the facts of the case.”Picture4

“I am going to respect the court-mandated confidentiality put in place to protect my children and will not comment any further,” O’Reilly said.

He did not address the allegation on Monday’s “O’Reilly Factor”. In the past, O’Reilly has frequently used his top-rated cable news show to tackle controversies head-on. In February, he dismissed allegations by former CBS News colleagues who disputed his description of Buenos Aires, Argentina, as a “combat situation” during the 1982 Falklands War.

“I was there on the street with my camera crews,” O’Reilly said on “Factor.” “The violence was horrific, as Argentine soldiers fired into the crowd, who were responding with violent acts of their own.”Picture5

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Wise Beyond Her Years. Listen Up Young People


AY CARAMBA: Christian Chick Has Advice for Cheaters and the Cheated

By Hope Gabrielle Rodriguez / 17 February 2014

http://clashdaily.com/2014/02/ay-caramba-christian-chick-advice-cheaters-cheated/#U5x5VzOqhHZUFXSi.99

Before I even began to dive into this subject, I found several statistics related to cheating (infidelity) online. Keep in mind, these are percentages of only those who actually admitted to cheating. These stats don’t include those who got away with it.
Marriage Infidelity Statistics Data
Percent of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional 41 %
Percent of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had 57 %
Percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had 54 %
Percent of married men who have strayed at least once during their married lives 22 %
Percent of married women who have strayed at least once during their married lives 14 %
Percentage of men and women who admit to having an affair with a co-worker 36 %
Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity on business trips 35%
Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law 17 %
Average length of an affair 2 years
Percentage of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered 31 %
Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught 74 %
Percentage of women who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught 68 %
Percent of children who are the product of infidelity 3 %

Wow! Right? I’m sure all of you reading this just decided to turn into overbearing psycho stalker spouses/significant others. Just kidding. Anyway, another crazy statistic that I found was that around 60% of people will be cheated on at least once in their lifetime. Awful, isn’t it? So the two big things I want to focus on in this touchy blog are the cheaters and the cheated-on in relationships. If a section doesn’t apply to you, simply don’t read it.

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The Cheaters

Even if you think this doesn’t apply to you because you’ve never physically cheated, you may be wrong. In my mind, cheating isn’t just physical, it’s emotional. Emotional cheating is also pointed out in the bible. Matthew 5:28 says that if you look at a woman with a lustful intent, you’ve already committed adultery with her in your heart. If you’re emotionally attached or thinking about someone else other than the one you’re with, you aren’t being faithful. Emotions are HUGE in a relationship, and trust me, people aren’t stupid. They know when you’re looking straight through them or wishing they were someone else. The human heart isn’t a toy to be tinkered with. So, don’t let someone allow you to consume their heart and mind if you don’t plan on being there.. ALL there.

One of the huge problems, in my opinion, are people who move from person to person after the current relationship gets boring. This type of person is someone who dates one person during the “googley eyed” stage, and moves onto the next relationship’s googley-eyed stage when the current relationship starts getting too monotonous. Psychologists and other specialists are linking this incident to the multiple loves/sexual partners that people are getting used to before their first real commitment. This made sense to me, but I don’t believe it applies in every case. However, I do believe people with multiple partners have a huge shock when they realize they’ve now committed to be with one person (sexually and emotionally) for the rest of their lives.

Another excuse people use is that their significant other “changed” or “just isn’t the same anymore.” Uh, hello, of course they aren’t the same. You’re out of the giggly, interesting, super exciting beginning stage and you’re needing something else to keep your attention. You feel as if you’ve gotten to know everything about them and there’s nothing else to learn.. and you’re bored. Trust me, there is ALWAYS more to learn about the love of your life. Always.

I’m one of those people that notices and memorizes the stupid little details. If you date me, I’ll know the exact toppings you prefer on your cheeseburger. I’ll decide what type of driver you are the very first time I ride in your vehicle with you. I’ll pay extremely close attention to how you treat your mother and your sisters, and if it isn’t something I approve of, I’ll run in the opposite direction. I pay attention to the cleanliness of your car, your room, and your body. I’ll ask you your favorite books, songs, and movies. Most of all, I pay attention to what inspires you. I made a commitment to myself when I was 18, after the most disastrous relationship I’ve endured, that I’d never date someone I couldn’t picture myself marrying. Make yourself this promise and your relationships will be more valuable to you.

I’m one of those people who loves a chase. I eat it up. If you tell me I can’t have something, I’m going to show you I can, in fact, have it. It isn’t just me, it’s human nature. This is another problem in relationships. You chase someone, get them, the relationship gets boring once again, and you notice someone else who seems unattainable. Annndddd there goes your attention. It’s that easy. Train your mind. Love isn’t about finding the perfect person, it’s about learning to love and devote your life to the person you’ve found.

Not everyone is going to love you the exact way you want them to, but if they seem right for you, and you love them, don’t hurt them. Just because someone doesn’t love you the exact way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. Cherish this. Protect their heart like it’s the most valuable possession you’ve ever held in your hands. Don’t shatter their heart and mind because you can’t control yours.

Proverbs 6:32 “He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.”

Hebrews 13:4 “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”

The Cheated

I have to be extremely careful while touching on this subject. First of all, whether or not you choose to stay with your partner after an occurrence of infidelity is no one’s business but your own. It all depends on the situation and what kind of person you are. According to surveys, most people say they leave after being cheated on because “they could never look at their spouse the same way again” or “couldn’t forget that it happened.” Completely understandable.

Those who have stayed with their significant other after infidelity often report that their spouse exhibits feelings of remorse and promises to change and never do it again. Once again, this choice is entirely up to you, and shouldn’t involve the input of anyone else. Keep in mind that those outside of your relationship may tell you things that are easier said than done. It’s easy for us to tell someone to leave their significant other after infidelity, but who are we to say such things? YOU are the one who married them. YOU are the one who loves them. It’s no one’s choice but YOURS to make.

So, choosing to stay or choosing to leave is the first part of the process. Leaving may seem quick and easy because you can pretend you’re okay, mask the pain with hobbies and nights out with your friends, and it seems as if the problem has disappeared. However, if you leave your relationship, you’ll be stuck with your pain and sorrow without the person you loved and depended on to help you sort it out.

I’ve been cheated on several times. One verse that always helped ease my feelings of hopelessness and betrayal was Romans 5:3-5. “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”

Rejoice in our sufferings.. much easier said than done. During hard times like these, it’s easy to lose all self-confidence and self-worth, but you have to remember that you didn’t cause this person to hurt you. There is something wrong with them, not you. There is no excuse for cheating. It is a selfish act caused by something in that person, not in you. I can’t stress that enough.

When someone hurts me, betrays me, or cheats on me, I like to think of it as an opportunity to make myself stronger than I’ve ever been before. Remember when you were in middle school and those girls or guys would pick on you or leave you out.. and your mom would tell you to get a “thicker skin?” I never understood that phrase until I was cheated on for the first time. Each time someone hurt me, I rejoiced.

I’m not going to lie, my first reaction was anger and hatred. I hated them with every part of me. I spent minutes, hours, days, weeks, and even months wondering how they could do such a thing. I mostly thought about how I could retaliate, because I wanted them to hurt. I wanted them to feel the pain and suffering that they caused me (awful, isn’t it?!). However, over time (A LOT of time), I’ve learned to thank them for making me stronger in the end.

If you rejoice in your sufferings, you’ll gain endurance, character, and hope. So, the next time you want to slash your ex’s tires or throw all of their belongings into the middle of I-10, choose to thank them for giving you endurance, character, and hope. You WILL make it through this, and you’ll come out stronger than you’ve ever been before. Pray. Pray for the person who hurt you, and pray for yourself.

Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Originally from HopeRodriguez.blogspot.com

-Hope Gabrielle Rodriguez. 22 year old nursing student at the University of South Alabama. I drink too much iced coffee and laugh way too loud.

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